Dear daughters of mine,

I am so incredibly blessed to be your mother.

It seems like yesterday you arrived into the world full of tiny ballerina toes and wisps of blonde hair and wistful blue eyes that spoke directly to my heart.

And now?

Now you are full of giggles and big opinions and personality and ranch salad dressing and blue eyes that roll.

And you don’t know this, but as your bare feet dance across the green grass and climb trees and play freeze tag with the crickets in the creek…

…the next chapters of your life are about to unfold.

Now is the time to pass on some very important information.

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1.  You are beautiful

Inside and out.

I know you think I’m supposed to say that because I’m your mother.

At this minute I can feel your eyes roll.

But one day the world will tell you that you aren’t.  They will tell you that you need to be skinnier or blonder or taller or more of this or less of that.  They will try to convince you that you need to change.

Don’t listen.

They have no idea what they are talking about.  They don’t know.

But I do.

And I know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and you are perfect and incredible and beautiful….

….just like you are.


2.  Be kind

You have been given many gifts my sweet twinkly-eyed girls.

Use them wisely.

Never, ever make fun of someone else.

In your life you will encounter many people who won’t return that kindness.

Don’t worry.

Be kind anyway.

Until you have walked a mile in their shoes, you never know that battle that someone else is fighting.

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3.  Don’t take yourself too seriously

Life is full of rules and things you should do and things you shouldn’t do.

I know you think you know this already.  You go to school.  You raise your hand.  You try not to talk in class.  You even eat your carrots at lunch.

I get it.

But there are so many more responsibilities and rules and regulations heading your way.

Don’t get overwhelmed.  You can do this.

Just remember to smile and dance in the aisles of the grocery store and don’t forget how to hula hoop and eat dessert first….

….and always call your sister if you need a giggle.


4.  You can accomplish anything

Don’t be afraid of failure.

Don’t be afraid to try.

Nothing in this world is accomplished by someone sitting on the sidelines.

Life is about the doing.

The hardest part will be deciding what you want to do.  There are so many choices and so many turns and bends and twists in the road.  Deciding what you want to accomplish can be challenging.

Talk to me.  I have a few suggestions.

5.  Marry a man who sings to you

One day you will find someone special.

Don’t rush.

Don’t worry.

Don’t settle.

One day you will meet someone special who sees the beauty and wonder and joy in you who will treasure you and love you for exactly who you are….

….and sings you his heart.


Love, Mom

PS  This song is by Stephen Curtis Chapman and it goes out to every mother who is changing the world….

….one little heartbeat at a time. 🙂

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  1. Image for Marian@CMShawStudios Marian@CMShawStudios

    Alright, you stinker, I had tears streaming down my face BEFORE I listened to your sailor's sweet song. Now I'm a puddle. You know that I have 3 girls, right? And that this post pretty much encapsulates everything I most want for them. So thank you. This is lovely. And what a man you found. Thanks for sharing his sweet song. Happy Mother's Day dear lady, The Other Marian

  2. Image for Beverly Beverly

    You all are incredibly blessed to have such a wonderful family. Happy Mother's Day, dear KariAnne. And, Happy Mother's Day to everyone you love.♥♥♥

  3. Image for Yvonne Yvonne

    So wonderful! I've given similar advice to my now 32 year old son and it is still relevant. He has two small daughters now and is raising them with the same insight. I know your beautiful girls will grow to be wondrous women!!

  4. Image for Sharon H Sharon H

    Oh, Miz kariane....if I were a young mother again, I'd want to be just like you! I'd want to know the things you know, love the way you love, be loved the way you are loved. I know your life isn't perfect, because there is no such thing as a perfect life, but you and your sweet family seem to just flow with the punches, which hopefully are few and far between. This world could certainly use two more sweetie pies just like you....and don't roll your eyes at me, young lady.... And two more young men just like your Sailor man. Happy Mother's Day to you!

  5. Image for Donnamae Donnamae

    Even though I have three sons...I think this applies equally to them. You daughters get more lovely every time I see them. Hope you have a great weekend! ;)

  6. Image for Lynnette Martin Lynnette Martin

    I've sent my two girls out into the world, one married & one in her first apartment. I'm not sure I was ever able to look forward like you have. I do hear from others how lovely of ladies they are, I also look back & see that. We love when they call us for advice or family recipe, little things like this make us feel like we did a good job. Our prayers were answered.

  7. Image for Judie Judie

    You just made my day! I know these girls will grow into awesome young woman. Hubby gets big points for that, What a beautiful family, Happy Mothers Day!

  8. Image for Kathleen Hall Kathleen Hall

    Love...totally love this. I wish I had thought of , or had the words like you do, to have told my daughters this. They are doing well, but have this as a teen is awesome. And have to add, if I had been told this...what empowering words! Thanks again for sharing. Happy Mother's Day!!

  9. Image for Norma Jean Norma Jean

    Two beautiful daughters, with fun personalities, just like their mom. Sweet pictures, sweet words, sweet song!

  10. Image for Nancy Nancy

    KariAnne, I love how your blog is full of wit and whimsy all the while taking us along on your journey. Happy Mother's Day to a mother who love, love, loves her family! Nancy

  11. Image for Diane Diane

    So beautifully written I think I will "steal" some of your words for a speech at next week's engagement party formy only daughter. Aren't we lucky to have daughters? (and your daughters are certainly lucky to have a mom, and Dad, like you) Thanks for sharing this very personal message.

  12. Image for Julie Timmerman Julie Timmerman

    Precious post Karianne! It sounds like wonderful advice for your lovely daughters. Please know how much we appreciate you out here in the blog world. You have inspired me and encouraged me to attemp things I never knew I could do! Your enthusiasm for life is contagious, which I soo appreciate! Happy Mothers Day friend, you are also beautifully and wonderfully made!! Tell that sparkly eyed hubby of your a yahoo for me too!

  13. Image for Sandy Sandy

    Happy Mother's day in advance! Wow! This is the most heartwarming post. Beautiful messages and boy can your husband sing and play guitar! Loved every bit of this! Made my day!

  14. Image for Peggy Peggy

    You nailed it! Thanks for sharing your wonderful advice for daughters and mothers too! Many moms struggle to feel beautiful!

  15. Image for Laura VanScott Laura VanScott

    So cute! I'm glad there's mother's out there that love Jesus and are sharing the truth of God's word with His precious children. He came to give us life and life more abundantly! Happy Mother's day!!

  16. Image for Rebecca Turner Rebecca Turner

    Sweet! I think I need to share this with my granddaughter. She is the same age as your girls and she needs this advice too. For Christmas one of her gifts was a canvas sign from Hobby Lobby that said, "Be-You-tiful." I bought it because I liked the sentiment and I don't want her to change. She is perfect...well as close to perfect as a sweet girl can get. Smile!

  17. Image for Felicia Felicia

    Beautiful, wise and tender words. I just had my daughter read this post with me. Love it... Happy Mother's Day!

  18. Image for KariAnne's Daughter KariAnne's Daughter

    I love you mom. You don't know how much I appreciate you, but I love you to the moon and back! Times Efinity! I loved the sweet post :) Remember I voted for you today! Love, your Favorite daughter - Twin 1 ❤️

  19. Image for Marisa Franca @ All Our Way Marisa Franca @ All Our Way

    I love the giggles at the end of the song! I am so blessed to be a mother and to have had a mother who was so generous and selfless!! I look at my children and think-- I did something right!! I am so darn proud of them -- as you are of your family. We are lucky!! Happy Mothers Day!!

  20. Image for Shirley Shirley

    Just read your post in the middle of the night (I live in England). Today my daughter gets married. She is amazing & so are the 5 bridesmaids sleeping here! They grow up so fast cherish your time with your beautiful daughters. Happy Mothers Day KariAnne & all Mothers everywhere you are doing a great job!

  21. Image for Leona Leona

    karianne, First you make me laugh , but this one has me sobbing. Your babies are beautiful, and you have raised them well. Only wish I had those words for my daughter 40 years ago. Your talent is endless and yet you question yourself. Yes you are amazing and so lucky to be loved by a singing hubby. Your beautiful girls are certainly growing and are blessed to have such a great mom (even if they roll their eyes). Happy Mothers Day

  22. Image for Wendy Wendy

    I'm amazed once again by you, always love your posts, style & heart that shines so BRIGHT! Thanks for sharing with us all!

  23. Image for Wendy Wendy

    I'm amazed once again by you, always love your posts, style & heart that shines so BRIGHT! Thanks for sharing with us all!

  24. Image for Liz Liz

    Karianne, i know I'm on the wrong post, but I forgot to mention about Lark Rise that I think your girls would also like it, too! It's a great show!!

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