Have you been on social media lately?

Stopped by Facebook?

Took a selfie for Instagram?

Tweeted or shared or emojied or scrolled or liked?

I have.

And just between us?  It’s a little overwhelming.


Everyone’s wearing the perfect outfit with the perfect wide-brimmed straw hat—standing on a beach with their hair blowing in the wind–holding a latte and snacking on broccoli.  I think I liked a picture of someone weaving linen for their beach house windows and I’m pretty sure I left a heart emoji for someone growing their own grain for fresh herb bread for a picnic on a rock at sunset.

I can’t even.

Now don’t get me wrong.

I love weaving my own linen as much as the next person.

I love wheat and beaches and picnics and hair blowing and fresh herb bread as much as the next person.

I mean—I’m the one in the grocery line reading about the top 10 ways to live healthier and happier in the next five minutes.

I get it.

Who am I to question anyone’s hat fashion choices?

But just for a moment—I want to shift the paradigm.

Self—I’m looking at you.

Instead of focusing on other’s perfection.

Before we feel smaller when we scroll through all that beautiful.

Before we feel less than when we look at ourselves through the lens of social media.

Before we decide we’re not speaking ice cream anymore and start spending hours deep conditioning our hair and add another skin care product our regime or search forever for the perfect purse to match our flip flops….

…can we just stop for one moment?

And remember how amazing we are?

Sometimes we are in such a rush to make ourselves better or wish we were walking in someone else’s shoes that we don’t even recognize the amazing that is right under our nose.

You know when you were younger and your mom wanted to take your picture and then she did and you looked at it and you didn’t like it because you didn’t look like a supermodel and your hair was flat and your shoes didn’t match your dress and you told your mom that you never, ever, ever, ever…

…wanted to see that picture again?

And then?

One day, years later you found the photo and you realized you were so thin and beautiful and your hair was super cute and the shoes were perfect…

…and you looked amazing.

But you missed it.

Because you were too busy looking for what you thought needed to be fixed.

So can we pause?

Just for today.

We can all go back to trying to be perfect tomorrow.

I promise.

Today we are going to remember all the things that make us amazing.

Today we are CELEBRATING US.

Today we are taking the imperfect and recognizing how beautiful it truly is.

So put down your coffee tell yourself in the mirror or tell your friend or your mother or cousin or aunt or the check-out lady at the grocery store what a great organizer, mother, crafter, singer, diyer, daughter, brother, baker, sister, painter, wife, dancer, roller skater, hula-hooper, world-traveler, talker, listener, chef, movie-watcher…

….that you are.

We got this.


Here’s to the amazing that we almost missed….

….right under our nose. 🙂

PS  Even mantels need a little imperfection, too.

Here’s the finished mantel.

See the imperfect?  See the rough edges?  See the layers of stain?

Imperfection never looked so beautiful.

Thank you for all your opinions.

PPS  I’d show you the entire mantel finished—but I have to save it for the next book. 🙂

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  1. Image for Terie Terie

    Love Love Love - we forget too often , in the quest for oerfection, that we are already enough! Thank you for the reminder KariAnne . I hope you have a wonderful ( pre) Holiday weekend!

  2. Image for Kim Kim

    Oh, but it's so very hard to do, KariAnne!! The mantel looks great!! I knew it would, whatever you decided to do with it!

  3. Image for Nancy Nancy

    The wood on your mantel is just right! Beautiful. As I look through my pictures throughout the years I too think the same thoughts. God didn't make any mistakes when He made us. We are just perfect! Thank you for posting a huge, meaningful subject!

  4. Image for Nancy Nancy

    The wood on your mantel is just right! Beautiful. As I look through my pictures throughout the years I too think the same thoughts. God didn't make any mistakes when He made us. We are just perfect! Thank you for posting a huge, meaningful subject!

  5. Image for Toni Toni

    You made my day and today rather than think self critical I'm going to seek to say positive things to myself all day!

  6. Image for stephanie stephanie

    Oh my it is overwhelming! So thanks for the break. OK I have had many breaks this month. Trips and yes precious mermaid pool time! Yes I need a get your rear in gear sermon but oh my your words made my heart happy! Thanks for easing my guilt and smiling as I am thinking I am an amazing at chilling out! Haha

  7. Image for Taste of France Taste of France

    You made me smile. Everybody has become a magazine editor and their lives have become the magazine content. On the one hand, it's kind of nice when you're in the mood for pretty pictures. But it is a bottomless pit that sucks away free time.

  8. Image for Alice Hanson Alice Hanson

    Oh Karianne, You are such an accomplished writer, teacher, best friend and inspiring red lipstick lady! I truly enjoy all your posts! Smiles, Alice

  9. Image for gee gee

    Giggle!!! Well, speaking for me, with the shoulder length hair caught up in a barrette because it's too heavy and I am too lazy to style it, and the face with only moisturizer on 😀, Yeah, you know, that kind of perfection. Hahaha. I am the nest perfectly imperfect me there is . At this moment. But it's all good. I'm happy with it.

  10. Image for Marisa Franca @ All Our Way Marisa Franca @ All Our Way

    Thank you for scolding me! I needed this reminder. I don't care how thin I am I still look in the mirror and see an overweight child. I've always wanted to be thinner -- and just like you I look at those pictures now and say, by golly, I was thin. All that time spent wishing for something that I already had. Crazy, isn't it? And as you know, we were made in God's image -- we're perfect. We may have a few rough edges but those are the things that make us unique. Sending love and hugs!!

  11. Image for Maureen Maureen

    WOW! I sure did need this today! Thank you for this post. I was just thinking I REALLY need to get off IG. Watching and drooling over everyone's travels, prepared foods that look like a chef cooked, perfect hair, skin, clothes, kids etc etc. I try to find inspiration but lately all I see is comparison. Thank you for reminding me, I'm okay!

  12. Image for Rose Rose

    This is why I love your blog. You don't compete with anyone - you are you and you teach by example. I have no time for the bloggers who are always making themselves look good. I do have time for the bloggers who share and make things look easy and you did just that today. You make your readers feel so good about themselves. You are real - no falseness about Kairanne - Thank you for always making me smile. Have a wonderful day. I'm sharing your post with all my 7 sisters. Each one has something special to give. Much love Rose

  13. Image for Karla Ritchey Karla Ritchey

    I love you Karianne...you know my heart! I am 64 years smart and celebrate my PERFECTION in my heart and head. God made me perfect and I celebrate HIS perfection everyday! I miss you in McKinney! Blessing!

  14. Image for Cecilia Cecilia

    Oh, where were you, my friend, when I was trying to be like everyone else? Might have skipped that and gone onto amazing a lot faster. Sometimes, I wish I could see my house the way others do. :) Love the mantel! It looks so good! hugs, Cecilia

  15. Image for Stephanie Stephanie

    Absolutely agree! : ). Where is this beautiful beach or lake house in all the photos? It looks so peaceful/restful. : )

  16. Image for Kris Kris

    Aren't you the one who put "All I want is a mediocre life" on Thistlekeeping a few months ago, or did I find that elsewhere? That SO resonated with me. I forwarded it to a dear friend, with whom it also struck a chord. I think we need to remind ourselves again and again that "perfect" is an illusion and, frankly, "perfect" people kinda bore me. Maybe when I try to be perfect, I'm boring (or unapproachable), too. This may be long--but I love it! “Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.' 'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit. 'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.' 'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?' 'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.” ― Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit

  17. Image for Karen U Karen U

    And you Karianne, and the inspiration you provide in all your amazing stories is "practically perfect in every way" I just love reading your blog! I know it's a design blog, but it's also such a heart lift to read your wisdom! Xo Karen

  18. Image for Colleen@LilacDriveDesigns Colleen@LilacDriveDesigns

    Yes! The mantel was exactly what I envisioned it would be! Total aside....I've been watching a ton of episodes of Stone House Revival....when he uncovers an old wooden mantel and hidden stone for 1780 it makes me giddy!

  19. Image for Mildred Mildred

    Those precious white w/blue stripe fish!!!! I want them. Where can I find some??? Are these pics of your family beachhouse? It's awesome!

  20. Image for Christy Christy

    Thanks so much for the uplift! As for the imperfect mantel...I love it. I have something similar above my fireplace that my Dad had made many years ago. It's just a wide piece of wood that he found. He sanded it and painted it. He passed away several years ago and now my husband and I live in that very same house, the house that I grew up in. The mantel still sits above the fireplace because it reminds me of him and to me, it's beautiful.

  21. Image for Leslie Watkins Leslie Watkins

    Love the photo story...we call those, "back when we were fat" pictures. When we were clueless. And that mantel. Love. But the photos of the beach chairs with their view--oh, my! I'm there. Enjoy that family time!!

  22. Image for Beth Minger Beth Minger

    Thanks once again for the wonderful post - beautiful photos, thoughts, and a great reminder. We like to entertain at our house and when we are preparing I try (not always successfully!) to walk through the house seeing what our friends see, I often realize that something I'm obsessing about will go totally unnoticed by anyone else! Thanks so much for sharing yourself in your blog!!👏

  23. Image for Carrie Carrie

    So Wise...and thanks for the reminder. I put my daughter on a plane today at 0430 for Army camp...did I look my best for the pictures??? Not even close. Did I care? Not even a bit. It's the memory of her arms around me, smiling, that means more than how I looked. Still, it's nice to be reminded from someone as amazing as you, that it is okay! :)

  24. Image for Marie Marie

    Beautiful reminder! As I near the big 60, some would say I should be wearing more make-up or start getting injections. I say I'm going shopping today with not a stitch of makeup because I feel like being footloose and fancy-free (something I would never have done before 50) and it's liberating. Every imperfection on this aging body has a story and I'm finally embracing it. Love the message in your post today.

  25. Image for Missy Missy

    Thank you for the reminder to just start Loving ourselves, imperfections and all! You are a gifted writer, I laugh and cry at a majority of your posts! Your home is beautiful, love all of your touches throughout your house! ❤️

  26. Image for Sandy Sandy

    This is a perfect reminder! I was at a gathering today where I took some beautiful photos of some of my friends. Of course all of the women criticized their bodies. I said when we are 70 and look back at the photo we will realize too late how beautiful we were.

  27. Image for Amanda Wallace Amanda Wallace

    I am behind on reading my emails, you know life, and I just read this post that came in my inbox. THANK YOU!!! I needed to hear that right now. You know life. You are an amazing woman who really knows how to say the right thing at the right time. You truly are gifted with amazingness and I am so glad you are so generous with your words. Thank you for sharing them.

  28. Image for Fonda Fonda

    I don't know who said this: Comparison is the thief of joy. Whether it's bodies or houses, clothing or cars, what others have should not affect the value of what we have. We can admire, but the moment we start to covet or attempt to acquire, the joy has been lost in having what we own and once loved.

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