Last week we drove into town to get supplies for our outdoor Father’s Day party.

And somewhere between the horse barn and the red building next to the satellite dish used as a garden ornament…..

…..I climbed up onto my soap box.

I have a few soap boxes.

But this one is my favorite.

This is my soapbox where I wax eloquently about the importance of choosing a really good boyfriend.

You know.

A boyfriend who opens the door for you and listens when you talk and takes you to a restaurant that doesn’t have a drive-thru and is nice to your family and respects you and goes to romantic movies if you want to….

….and who is generally wonderful.

Just like  your dad.


Most of the time no one listens when I get on my soapbox.

They’ve heard it all before.

But this time was different.

This time I had two pairs of big blue eyes hanging on my every word.


At first it was quiet….just me rattling off all of my pearls of wisdom.

And then suddenly… of the twins piped up from the back seat,  “Mom….ummm…..excuse me…., Mom.”

I almost didn’t hear her because I was discussing in great detail whether or not a boy should stand up when someone leaves the table at dinner and trying to decide if anyone even did that anymore and maybe that was setting the bar too high for the legions of future boyfriends.


“Mom,” she said again. “I’m just going to worry about all this in the future when I choose my boyfriend.”

I stared at her sternly.

“You don’t ‘choose’ your boyfriends,” I said emphatically.

“You should let the boys call you.

And let the boys ask you out.

And meet your parents before they take you on a date,”  I said….stomping on the soapbox once more for good measure.


“Oh Mom,” she giggled.

“You are so funny.  I didn’t mean it like that.  

What I meant was…..first I’m going to choose the boy I like……

…..and then I’m going to make him think it’s all his idea.”


Then she paused and grinned….blinked twice and added….You know…..

…..”just like you did with Dad.”


And just like that…..somewhere between the field full of goats and the red barn….

….I could feel my soapbox kicked right out from under me.  🙂


  1. Image for nantucketdaffodil nantucketdaffodil

    Sounds like those cuties are just like their mom....and I am so glad! Also sounds like they have listened to a few of your pearls of wisdom in the past as well. You can tell them Monica trusts every one of your soap boxes!

  2. Image for judy judy

    From another mother who has had her soap box kicked out from under her many times, I smiled through all of this. Now I have three grown, married daughters, and I am so thankful for each of their wonderful husbands. Keep sharing your heart. They do hear, whether you believe it or not, whether you are on the soap box or underneath it:) Great post!

  3. Image for Sharon H Sharon H

    Oh my goodness! How cute and adorable is that??? You're doing a great job with those kids, and they will thank you all their lives for it. Never be afraid to use those soap boxes because 'they've heard it before'......the way we LEARN is through repetition, repetition, REPETITION. Of course, the content is important. Remember, good stuff in....good stuff out.....garbage in......garbage out. keep up the good work, Mom!

  4. Image for Patty O Patty O

    Oh how cute! Such a wise little one - obviously she takes after her Momma - and obviously she's listened to you! Another wonderful post - thank you for the morning smile!

  5. Image for Nicole Orrell Nicole Orrell

    Thank you for the Monday Morning Laugh! Next time, please warm me not to take a sip of coffee right before I read it! They remind my of my son! Such quick wit! I love it!

  6. Image for Angela Angela

    What a great way to start a Monday!! No doubt your darling daughters are going to conquer the world on their own terms....just like their mom!! Great job!! Have a fabulous week!!!~~Angela

  7. Image for Jean Jean

    Ha! When my now, 24 year-old, daughter was little she asked me to pick her future husband out for her. She completely denies that today, but it DID happen!

  8. Image for Cheryl Cheryl

    You don't have to worry about those girls, they will do just fine with the boys! They already know the right way to go about dating. Your husband may want to be a little nervous, though!

  9. Image for Doreen Doreen

    I've been on that same soap box for years - but from a little different perspective with boys (with a strong emphasis on respect and manners that you mentioned). The most important thing, when the time comes, is to get on that soap box when necessary, be an available open ear when they want to talk (and maybe hear what you think), and pray, pray, and then pray some more!!!! Right now, we're so happy that our oldest has found the girl of his dreams and hopefully we'll have something to celebrate soon!

  10. Image for Polly Polly

    How adorable!! I would have probably driven off the road trying not to giggle!! They really do listen, even though; it might take a few trys to get it right!! Have a great week and thanks for the Happy Monday:)

  11. Image for melissa @ DaisyMaeBelle melissa @ DaisyMaeBelle

    I have 3 girls, so the "choose a man just like your dad" conversations have been going on now for years at our house :) I have that exact same iron table and chair set. My sweet hubby gave it to me for Mother's Day a few years back. Another reason they should marry someone just like their daddy! Although, mine has never held a dessert quite like that one! It all looks beautiful! Life to the full! Melissa

  12. Image for Susan Susan

    I have a few soap boxes too and the really neat thing is that you may think this one has been kicked out from under you until you hear one of your own daughters telling their children the same thing:-D Then, you'll smile and feel redeemed! XOXO

  13. Image for Michele Michele

    YOu have nothing to worry about with your sweet, wise and pretty twins, do you, KA// Hope you had a great Father's Day gathering- table looks great and I had to go grab a lemonade out of my fridge after I saw your pretty ones. You know my hubs is one of those amazing guys who does all that, but somewhere around 12 years ago he stopped standing up everytime I go up or came into the room. Not sure why - it just sorta vanished - maybe some guy teased him, because he truly was the only one I have ever seen DO that. I think it made me fall in love with him, but it's gone - but nothing else, in fact I am pretty danged happy with my choice. ♥ Have a fabulous week. Hugs.

  14. Image for Sarah Sarah

    Always smile while I read your posts. This one generated BIG smiles. I'd love to be a fly on the wall listening to the conversations you have with the twins. They must be just as cute as their mom! Love seeing your beautiful garden setting. My niece now has all my mom's beautiful milk glass pieces. I'm going to send her this link to show what a lovely setting they make. ;-)

  15. Image for Amy Watson Amy Watson

    HaHa...been there...My daughter is 32 with 2 of her own now....she asked me not too long ago, " Mom, you still have that old soap box laying around some where.....I think it is my turn to get on it..:) YaY....She remembered that I gave her those same words of wisdom, and I didn't have to remind her to pass it down....She is such a good wife and Mom..and just as important, she has a wonderful baby daddy..( did I REALLY just say "baby daddy" ) I don't know where that came from...I don't think I have ever used that " term"......before ;)

  16. Image for Judy Judy

    How cute, KerriAnne. Us moms have to be really careful now a days. Our young kids are so much smarter than we were!.Beautiful cake and setting..Happy Monday..Judy

  17. Image for Cynthia Cynthia

    What an adorable are priceless!! I love your stories and the pictures in this post are so beautiful! I guess they really listen after all. I would love for you to visit Cloches and Lavender and follow along on our journey. I would love your feedback. I would love to have the gift of story telling as you do! Cynthia

  18. Image for Erin Erin

    I love to watch old movies on TCM and see the manners that have gone by the way side, like standing when someone left the table, dressing for dinner, etc. A different time. BTW, I need to send my just turned 15 year old daughter to you for romance lessons!

  19. Image for Linda@Coastal Charm Linda@Coastal Charm

    Oh my...been there and done that...these girls are just so wise these days. In the end...they really do listen to what we have to say. Thanks for a good laugh and I better get back to my projects. Blessings, Linda

  20. Image for Gina Gina

    They are way smarter than any of us, that's for sure! :) I'm really glad to hear that I'm not the only one who gets on her soapbox over & over again, thinking no one is listening. It's a pleasant surprise when they are, isn't it?

  21. Image for Gwen Gwen

    I want a sitcom... Star: mom with pretty dishes oh and perfectly perfect lipstick each week. Promise: you'll laugh because you can't help it!!

  22. Image for Pinky Pinky

    See, we always think they are not listening, but they soak it ALL up like a sponge. They may gripe and complain but they HEAR it all. You are a GOOD teacher. XO, Pinky

  23. Image for jami @ freckled laundry jami @ freckled laundry

    She is wise beyond her years! Awesome. You and I can tap dance on the soapbox together on this one. It is my sole mission in life to raise two little boys that open doors and pull out chairs and offer jackets in the rain (and know how to do a load of laundry)...for sweet little girls like yours!

  24. Image for Cyndy Cyndy

    I just LOVE ur stories incorporated with beautiful photos! Your kids are very lucky to have such an incredible writer, DIYer and loving Mom. Someone to look up to which is very rare these days.

  25. Image for Gina Gina

    What a sweet story, but I have to ask for the recipe for the cake!! That looks fabulous!! Going to peruse your blog for it just in case. If it's not here will you share? ;)

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