Have you ever heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman?
I read it years ago and it’s kind of a game changer. The premise of the book is that everyone has a way that they show love and everyone has a way that they receive love and there are five different love languages and different ways we communicate.
Here are the love languages from the book.
In no particular order.
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Acts of Service
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Physical Touch
For example, my love language is Words of Affirmation.
You probably guessed that. Some people are bi-lingual.
I’m kind of all in on the words of affirmation department.
Sometimes the whole love language thing can be a little challenging because sometimes people that we love…..
…..don’t speak our language.
They love us.
Instinctively we know they love us.
We know and understand that, it’s just that they show us love in a different way.
It’s kind of like these pumpkin slices.
When the tree fell in the back yard, I was so excited. Some people might have seen a fallen tree. I didn’t. I saw wood slice wreaths and chalkboard slice wreaths and centerpieces and pedestals and side tables and pumpkins…..
….glorious, wonderful, amazing, orange wood slice pumpkins.
Idea after idea spilled out in the middle of the back yard. Sparkling and brilliant and creative ideas that shimmered and danced like poetry across the field. And then I paused mid-idea factory and turned to my husband for affirmation.
I waited for him to be amazed at my creativity.
Amazed at my brilliance.
I waited for those incredible, precious words of affirmation.
Instead he smiled at me and shrugged. It wasn’t a negative shrug. It wasn’t meant to be dismissive. It was more like an overwhelmed-I-can’t-believe-my-wife-just-dreamed-up-50 projects-kind-and-I-still-have-a-fallen-tree-in-my-backyard kind of shrug.
But it wasn’t words of affirmation.
I wish this was the part of the story where I tell you that I took all that non-affirmation speaking well.
I may or may not have rolled my eyes and grumbled and muttered under my breath and tried unsuccessfully to stomp back to the house in the wet grass.
After that display, we didn’t really talk much about the tree or the wood slices or the projects or pumpkins for the rest of the afternoon.
He stayed outside and I stayed inside.
Later that day, when I was trying to add a wreath to the front door, I heard him call my name.
And I walked out onto the back porch and saw this….
….stacks and stacks and stacks of wood slices everywhere.
I almost started crying.
He was speaking his love language.
Acts of service.
And there he stood, covered in bits of sawdust and pieces of wood and branches and tired and sweaty and exhausted, grinning from ear to ear. I ran into his arms and told him I was sorry for stomping and grumbling and sighing and that I was going to transform one of those wood slices into a pumpkin right now.
And that I loved him.
And all those wood slices said I love you right back. 🙂
DIY Wood Slice Pumpkins
1. Start with a wood slice. I just saw some at Micheal’s if you don’t have a tree fall in your back yard.
2. Paint inside of pumpkin orange with acrylic craft paint.
3. Let dry.
4. Glue a piece of drift wood (or you could use a stick from the yard) to the top of the pumpkin.
5. Cut a leaf out of burlap and glue to the top.
6. Tell your pumpkins how amazing and wonderful and incredible they are….
….because even pumpkins need words of affirmation. 🙂