The Best Advice I Never Gave

The Best Advice I Never Gave



Last week we drove into town to get supplies for our outdoor Father’s Day party.

And somewhere between the horse barn and the red building next to the satellite dish used as a garden ornament…..

…..I climbed up onto my soap box.

I have a few soap boxes.

But this one is my favorite.

This is my soapbox where I wax eloquently about the importance of choosing a really good boyfriend.

You know.

A boyfriend who opens the door for you and listens when you talk and takes you to a restaurant that doesn’t have a drive-thru and is nice to your family and respects you and goes to romantic movies if you want to….

….and who is generally wonderful.

Just like  your dad.


Most of the time no one listens when I get on my soapbox.

They’ve heard it all before.

But this time was different.

This time I had two pairs of big blue eyes hanging on my every word.


At first it was quiet….just me rattling off all of my pearls of wisdom.

And then suddenly… of the twins piped up from the back seat,  “Mom….ummm…..excuse me…., Mom.”

I almost didn’t hear her because I was discussing in great detail whether or not a boy should stand up when someone leaves the table at dinner and trying to decide if anyone even did that anymore and maybe that was setting the bar too high for the legions of future boyfriends.


“Mom,” she said again. “I’m just going to worry about all this in the future when I choose my boyfriend.”

I stared at her sternly.

“You don’t ‘choose’ your boyfriends,” I said emphatically.

“You should let the boys call you.

And let the boys ask you out.

And meet your parents before they take you on a date,”  I said….stomping on the soapbox once more for good measure.


“Oh Mom,” she giggled.

“You are so funny.  I didn’t mean it like that.  

What I meant was…..first I’m going to choose the boy I like……

…..and then I’m going to make him think it’s all his idea.”


Then she paused and grinned….blinked twice and added….You know…..

…..”just like you did with Dad.”


And just like that…..somewhere between the field full of goats and the red barn….

….I could feel my soapbox kicked right out from under me.  ๐Ÿ™‚

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  1. Sounds like those cuties are just like their mom….and I am so glad! Also sounds like they have listened to a few of your pearls of wisdom in the past as well. You can tell them Monica trusts every one of your soap boxes!

  2. I wish the advice that one gives to 23 year-olds was as easy! Sounds like your girls have it figured out!

  3. .. and I bet she will be wearing the prettiest shade of red lipstick you’ve ever seen. ๐Ÿ™‚ xxoo

  4. such wise girls! wonder where they get it from! ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. From another mother who has had her soap box kicked out from under her many times, I smiled through all of this. Now I have three grown, married daughters, and I am so thankful for each of their wonderful husbands. Keep sharing your heart. They do hear, whether you believe it or not, whether you are on the soap box or underneath it:) Great post!

  6. That’s the problem with those soap boxes when we have taught our kids too well ๐Ÿ™‚
    xo Laura

  7. Great punchline! Sounds like you have a smart girl there….

    Gorgeous photos, as usual!

  8. Oh my goodness! How cute and adorable is that??? You’re doing a great job with those kids, and they will thank you all their lives for it. Never be afraid to use those soap boxes because ‘they’ve heard it before’……the way we LEARN is through repetition, repetition, REPETITION. Of course, the content is important. Remember, good stuff in….good stuff out…..garbage in……garbage out.
    keep up the good work, Mom!

  9. Oh how cute! Such a wise little one – obviously she takes after her Momma – and obviously she’s listened to you! Another wonderful post – thank you for the morning smile!

  10. Thank you for the Monday Morning Laugh! Next time, please warm me not to take a sip of coffee right before I read it!
    They remind my of my son! Such quick wit! I love it!

  11. What a great way to start a Monday!! No doubt your darling daughters are going to conquer the world on their own terms….just like their mom!! Great job!! Have a fabulous week!!!~~Angela

  12. Ha! When my now, 24 year-old, daughter was little she asked me to pick her future husband out for her. She completely denies that today, but it DID happen!

  13. Well, isn’t she clever?? ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the Monday “happy”!
    xo Heidi

  14. So cute!! Love her insight!! Have a great day!!

  15. What a great giggle to start my day! Sounds like we’ll have to nickname her Little K. ๐Ÿ˜€

  16. You don’t have to worry about those girls, they will do just fine with the boys! They already know the right way to go about dating. Your husband may want to be a little nervous, though!

  17. I’ve been on that same soap box for years – but from a little different perspective with boys (with a strong emphasis on respect and manners that you mentioned). The most important thing, when the time comes, is to get on that soap box when necessary, be an available open ear when they want to talk (and maybe hear what you think), and pray, pray, and then pray some more!!!! Right now, we’re so happy that our oldest has found the girl of his dreams and hopefully we’ll have something to celebrate soon!

  18. How adorable!! I would have probably driven off the road trying not to giggle!! They really do listen, even though; it might take a few trys to get it right!! Have a great week and thanks for the Happy Monday:)

  19. I have 3 girls, so the “choose a man just like your dad” conversations have been going on now for years at our house ๐Ÿ™‚ I have that exact same iron table and chair set. My sweet hubby gave it to me for Mother’s Day a few years back. Another reason they should marry someone just like their daddy! Although, mine has never held a dessert quite like that one! It all looks beautiful! Life to the full! Melissa

  20. What a wise girl you have! Just like her mother ๐Ÿ˜‰

  21. She’s right, it’s good when they feel it was their idea. You gotta throw them a bone sometimes C:

  22. I have a few soap boxes too and the really neat thing is that you may think this one has been kicked out from under you until you hear one of your own daughters telling their children the same thing:-D Then, you’ll smile and feel redeemed! XOXO

  23. Lovely! Love all your photoas as usual! Now about that strawberry cake recipe?? : )


  24. See…they have been listening…and when you least expect it! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  25. Perfect! Girls definitely have the inside track in SO many ways, don’t they? ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I’m with Christine . . . How’s about that recipe? I’m drooling on my iPad!

  26. No NO NOO, see the soap boxes have worked! Your apples are close to the tree & that is great as the world needs more Karianne’s!

  27. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh KariAnne, I think those girls of yours have just a bit of your great personality and spirit! WooHoo!

  28. Sweet! I do hope those two with the big blue eyes remember what she said.

  29. Oh. My. Goodness. That’s was a blissfully delightful story for my Monday morning coffee!!

  30. YOu have nothing to worry about with your sweet, wise and pretty twins, do you, KA//

    Hope you had a great Father’s Day gathering- table looks great and I had to go grab a lemonade out of my fridge after I saw your pretty ones.

    You know my hubs is one of those amazing guys who does all that, but somewhere around 12 years ago he stopped standing up everytime I go up or came into the room. Not sure why – it just sorta vanished – maybe some guy teased him, because he truly was the only one I have ever seen DO that. I think it made me fall in love with him, but it’s gone – but nothing else, in fact I am pretty danged happy with my choice. โ™ฅ

    Have a fabulous week. Hugs.

  31. Clearly the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree!!!!

    ๐Ÿ™‚ me!

  32. No doubt you’ll crawl back up on that soap box again…as needed! Be encouraged. It sounds like she’s learning well.

  33. Always smile while I read your posts. This one generated BIG smiles. I’d love to be a fly on the wall listening to the conversations you have with the twins. They must be just as cute as their mom!
    Love seeing your beautiful garden setting. My niece now has all my mom’s beautiful milk glass pieces. I’m going to send her this link to show what a lovely setting they make. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  34. As my kids say, “they learned from the best”. Funny post – so cute. Enjoyed reading you today.


  35. HaHa…been there…My daughter is 32 with 2 of her own now….she asked me not too long ago, ” Mom, you still have that old soap box laying around some where…..I think it is my turn to get on it..:) YaY….She remembered that I gave her those same words of wisdom, and I didn’t have to remind her to pass it down….She is such a good wife and Mom..and just as important, she has a wonderful baby daddy..( did I REALLY just say “baby daddy” ) I don’t know where that came from…I don’t think I have ever used that ” term”……before ๐Ÿ˜‰

  36. I wonder where he got that from, Karianne !

  37. Great story! Thanks

  38. I love your stories! They always make me smile.

  39. I want your girls to come to my house (with their soap box… or they can borrow yours) and have a talk with my girls… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Great story, Karianne!

  40. How cute, KerriAnne. Us moms have to be really careful now a days. Our young kids are so much smarter than we were!.Beautiful cake and setting..Happy Monday..Judy

  41. What an adorable story….kids are priceless!! I love your stories and the pictures in this post are so beautiful! I guess they really listen after all. I would love for you to visit Cloches and Lavender and follow along on our journey. I would love your feedback. I would love to have the gift of story telling as you do!


  42. I love to watch old movies on TCM and see the manners that have gone by the way side, like standing when someone left the table, dressing for dinner, etc. A different time.
    BTW, I need to send my just turned 15 year old daughter to you for romance lessons!

  43. Oh Miss Thistle you crack me up

  44. Oh my…been there and done that…these girls are just so wise these days. In the end…they really do listen to what we have to say. Thanks for a good laugh and I better get back to my projects.


  45. too cute!

  46. Love, love it. You teach your daughter well, my friend!

  47. They are way smarter than any of us, that’s for sure! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m really glad to hear that I’m not the only one who gets on her soapbox over & over again, thinking no one is listening. It’s a pleasant surprise when they are, isn’t it?

  48. They are going to be just fine aren’t they! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Bravo!

  49. I think she has quite a good handle on it. I tell my son’s girlfriend the same things! But I don’t think she listens…..

  50. I want a sitcom… Star: mom with pretty dishes oh and perfectly perfect lipstick each week. Promise: you’ll laugh because you can’t help it!!

  51. You tell the very best stories! I’m sure your children are secretly enthralled with their story telling mother, soapbox or not.

  52. smart girls you have there!

  53. did you post that cake recipe. it looks so good!!!

  54. See, we always think they are not listening, but they soak it ALL up like a sponge. They may gripe and complain but they HEAR it all. You are a GOOD teacher. XO, Pinky

  55. Great story…and great storyteller!

  56. Love the story! But where can I find the recipe for that awesome cake!!!!!!!!

  57. Too cute…it made me giggle!!

  58. She’s one smart little cookie!! Love the story!

  59. Out of the mouths of babes.. you know you’ve done a great job raising them when they better you on the wisdom front! Beautiful dessert table.. just gorgeous!! xx

  60. I am new to this blog… this post drew me in… Now I am hooked! Wise Living + Beautiful Photos = Awesome!

  61. The apples fell close to the tree. They adore their mommy.

    Everything looks so pretty, KariAnne.

  62. Love this!

  63. She is wise beyond her years! Awesome. You and I can tap dance on the soapbox together on this one. It is my sole mission in life to raise two little boys that open doors and pull out chairs and offer jackets in the rain (and know how to do a load of laundry)…for sweet little girls like yours!

  64. I think you have some real cuties, who really listen to their adorable Momma!
    Happy Hugs!

  65. Just goes to show… they are always listening ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Thank goodness right?

  66. I just LOVE ur stories incorporated with beautiful photos!
    Your kids are very lucky to have such an incredible writer, DIYer and loving Mom. Someone to look up to which is very rare these days.

  67. you are apparently an uncle too…that is what my grandson thinks i am…i love your stories, they are REAL…great chuckle with this one

  68. What a sweet story, but I have to ask for the recipe for the cake!! That looks fabulous!! Going to peruse your blog for it just in case. If it’s not here will you share? ๐Ÿ˜‰