A Good Pair of Flip Flops Can Change the World

A Good Pair of Flip Flops Can Change the World

 

Have you ever had a moment of awkward?

A moment where you wish you could push the reset button?

A moment when you felt like the world was looking at you in unison with a giant raised eyebrow?

Me?

I’ve lived a lifetime of moments just like that.

Two steps forward and one step back….

…wiping a little egg off my face along the way. 

Six months into my blogging journey, I decided to attend a conference.

I wanted to learn all about mysterious things like SEO and alt tags and social media and DFP and how to take pictures of eggs that looked like art.  So I bought my ticket and booked my room and got my hair highlighted and stocked up on red lipstick and took off for places unknown.

Solo.

All by myself without any peeps.

(total aside:  if you ever plan on attending a blogging conference, do as I say, not as I did…peeps make everything so much better)

The first night of the conference started with a cocktail party for all the attendees.

I was ready.

I put on my new outfit, teased my highlighted hair to the sky, slipped on a new pair of over-sized sparkly earrings that danced when I laughed and walked into a dark room filled with people I had never met before in my entire life.  In my hands, I clutched a stack of brand new business cards that I had printed at Wal-Mart and desperately clung to them for reassurance.

Like they were the golden ticket.

Nervously, I walked up to the first table of bloggers I saw and introduced myself.

The bloggers looked me up and looked me down and asked me what the name of my blog was.  Excitedly, I peeled a business card out of my sweaty palms and pointed to the website for Thistlewood Farms.  I couldn’t believe it.  These were bloggers.  Real, in-life bloggers.  Just like me.  I knew this was going to be the beginning of something wonderful.  I knew this was the part in the script where we were all going to hug and talk blogging and give each other tips and ideas and hold hands and become best friends forever.

Except.

Except it didn’t happen exactly like that.

The bloggers looked at my wilted, crumpled business card and shrugged and exchanged a look that spoke volumes. Then, with a half-hearted smile, they gave me one more cursory glance and looked over my head to see if someone more popular was around.

Truly.

And right then and there in the middle of that room standing all alone with laughter and conversation swirling all around me…

….I shrunk a little inside.

I paused, stood there awkwardly for another moment as my hair and my outstretched business cards wilted just a little.

You got this, I told myself.

Don’t let them see you sweat.

I shook my head, braced my shoulders, clutched my hands….

 and soldiered on.

I approached another group of beautiful people in beautiful outfits, laughing and talking and becoming instant best friends…

…and the same thing happened again.

And again.  And again.  And again.

Until my confidence was shattered.

Until my heart hurt.

Until I wanted to take my earrings and my highlights and my Walmart business cards…

…and run all the way home.

Instead, I gathered my tattered pride and my bedraggled hair and left the party with my head held high.

I finally made it to my hotel room, flung myself onto the bed and burst into tears.

This wasn’t how it was supposed to be.  This wasn’t what I envisioned.  This wasn’t how I imagined my first foray into the world of blogging to end up.

Not even close.

Tears, streaming down my face, I dug in my purse for tissues and saw the message on my phone.

It was my family.  They were calling to wish me luck and check on me and ask me about all my new friends and all the fun I was having.

*sigh*

The message made me cry harder.  It made me wish I had ordered my business cards from a fancy online store.  It made me wish my blog was funnier and brighter and different and more creative and…and…and….

….better.

Suddenly, I stopped mid pity party.

Why?  Why was I worried about what they thought?  Why was I worried about my blog being better or more creative or funnier or more than it was…..

….because I was there.

Me.

KariAnne.

I was in the house. 

I was at the conference with my stories and my waving hands and my giggle and my joy.

And me, myself and I were better than any blog post could ever hope to be.

So I dried my tears and washed my face and went to bed.  The next day I marched myself downstairs with a sparkling set of flip flops and a new attitude….

….and then I laughed and danced and listened and storied my way through the conference.

Maybe it was the flip flops.

Maybe it was the new perspective.

Maybe it was the joy bubbling out of me for the next 48 hours.

Whatever the reason, on the last day of the conference, I sat on the front row and appointed myself to approach the sponsors and thank them for hosting the conference.

Like I was on the greeting committee.

Like I was someone important.  Someone with worth.  Someone with a voice to be heard and a story to tell….

….like I was me. 

The moral of this blogging tale?

Remember that everyone has worth.  Don’t ever let others try to tell you differently.

There is only one you.

And that you is amazing.

And creative and wonderful and incredible with a unique voice and a story to tell….

….so tell it with confidence and joy.

And if you ever attend a blogging conference…

…perspective and a little blinged out footwear make all the difference. 🙂

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Comments

  1. I so remember the flip flop story!…. 🙂 You persevered !!!

  2. “like I was me”

    I just love that little phrase! It’s taken me too many years of life to get to that point, and I fight to stay there. Of course, that fight is with me, myself and I. I find it a bit sad that I spent so many years letting other people define my value and my voice. No longer.

    God made me, gave me a voice and a vision and I intend to use it. I think it’s a pretty good one, if I do say so myself!

    Thanks for the reminder this morning. What a great little story!

    • Good for you Randi. Me too….it’s taken me years to get to where I am now of not feeling so much of the pressure to be something else. God created me uniquely ( and you too) and He loves us…
      Be the wonderful person that YOU are….😊

  3. Well those bloggers missed out on meeting a wonderful, delightful, creative and fun person!
    Don’t change a thing as you are loved by your followers.

  4. You are SO awesome KariAnne! LOVE your stories!

  5. Ok, I may be crying or laughing or both. Been sort of there. Not at a blogging conference but a bloggers meeting. Felt like a fish out of water. sigh. Next time, sparkly flip-flops for sure. 😀
    Thanks for the pep talk. You rock, girl!

  6. KariAnne! I love who you are, I love your generosity of spirit, I love your giggle, and I love your red lipstick. We’ve never met face to face but I consider you a friend and I know if I asked — you would be there to help. Have a wonderful day, my friend. I hope to pay it forward someday.Sending huge hugs!!

  7. Wonderful words of encouragement! Thanks for being transparent, funny, and beautiful in red lipstick.

  8. Oh, my, I hope your fellow bloggers learned a lesson also. I cannot imagine being so dismissive. The only rule we need in life is the Golden Rule. It works every time! I am so glad you believed in yourself and didn’t give up. You are my favorite blogger – I love your storytelling and can’t wait for your book.

  9. grammy goodwill :

    I’m sorry that happened to you. Those bloggers don’t even know what they missed out on. I’m glad you didn’t let that experience stop you.

  10. You know Karianne, as great as you are as a blogger…you are an even better writer! You always “get” me with your intros & I have to read the story. You are so down to earth & funny, I think most people relate to you. Don’t ever stop with your inspirational stories & have you ever considered writing fiction? You could be the new “Erma Bombeck”!

  11. Thank you for the wonderful story. I know everyone has felt that way before, whether at a blogging conference or work or anywhere. I know I have! I’m glad you never gave up because your blog is wonderful, and I always look forward to reading it!

  12. Oh, my. I totally get this post! I have been there SO MANY times in life. It is hard to put myself out there, and then be rejected. But I finally reached a point in my life that I just didnt care anymore. I realized that my worth wasn’t in other people or what they thought of me. My value was in Christ, and being His. I LOVE your blog and you are adorable! I haven’t heard you giggle, but I bet it is a joyful sound. 🙂 You and your blog are a blessing!

  13. I am almost 72 yrs old & when I grow up I want to be “just like you, but still me!” You are one of the most talented writers out there (& I visit more blogs than the days of your life so far 🙂 . . . ) and I am not “schmoozing” you! Honestly—you are going to be famous one day among bloggers! I want to be one of your championeers—that is my made-up word! And you can take that to the bank!

  14. ♥♥♥ Beautifully said!

  15. Flip Flops instead of thongs? You must be from Chicago, lol. I just joined our town’s Woman’s Club now that the kids are grown and out of the house and I want to and have time to give back. As a guest at my first meeting, the leader nicely asked “and who referred you?” I meekly told her no one, I just want to join in and help the community that I’ve live in over 20 years. I got a follow up email from her, I’m in. Whoo Hoo. I better get myself some new Flip Flops.

  16. That is a perfect reminder of the value of each soul, thank you!

  17. Thanks you.

  18. You were the star! Those meanies missed out on meeting the spectacular you!

  19. Ouf! These kinds of situations are so dreadful. I can imagine all those people feeling insecure about themselves and seeing you like, “aha! somebody even less known than me!” and putting on airs. To make themselves feel better. I doubt it worked. But your attitude does work–be positive. Good for you!

  20. I’ve never met you but you strike me as a “real”person- the kind one can trust and love even if we never meet. You have the luxury of a wonderful family. Your friend Sherry

  21. I get tickled and giggle every time I read your posts. You are amazingly fun and I want to thank you for allowing God to use you to bring laughter and joy and beauty to those of us who get to read your blog. Have a blessed day.

  22. From what I know of bloggers (and I read a lot of them!) I just don’t think they would treat someone like that today. But I’m glad you pulled up your flip flops and went back, head held high. Everything is better with flip flops, I think.

  23. Thank you, just what I needed and will share with my daughters.

  24. Thanks I needed this! I was hurt because someone I’ve k own for twenty years did not invite me to his 60th birthday party. This morning I feel better because I read your article. I am me.

  25. I want to see a picture of those flip flops!!!

  26. Oh, KariAnne,

    I was right there with you throughout this blog. You’re words are heartfelt and inspiring. Thank you for saying the exact right things at the exact right time. Timing is everything…

  27. Thank you so much for sharing that. It literally brought tears to my eyes. As a result of my upbringing, have always felt inferior and unworthy around others, especially if my mind would draw comparisons to them. I always fell short, in my eyes. As I have aged, I’m getting better at realizing I have worth and value and am a unique individual. It took years to comprehend we are all valuable in our unique ways and loved by God.

  28. I echo what Kathryn Smith said- you are AWESOME!! I bet those bloggers are sorry now- they should have been nicer to the rock star of all bloggers. You make my day:)

  29. Leave it to your family to make such a difference
    and instill the confidence and bravery required
    to return, with your head held high, and be the
    wonderful YOU we all know and admire!! xoxo

  30. Thank you for this post. I have just started a new blog and I have yet to attend a conference. You give me new insight to blogging and I appreciate that so much. You give me the courage to march on and just be me. Thanks again.

  31. Like you I’m an open book. I embrace life and the people I meet and leave myself wide open for the meanies out there. But the intrinsic desire to be with happy, wonderful people prevails and somehow we manage to find each other and laugh together, cry together, inspire each other and spontaneously live our lives in spite of the small hurts along the way. My flip flops are dancing in joy!!!!

  32. Never let someone else steal your joy…..

  33. Thank you for being who you are, KariAnne! ♡

  34. Wow….great story from a woman who has the confidence to move mountains…you only needed flip flops and more red lipstick. Perspective + perserverance = joy of doing it your way.

  35. Well it might not be my nicest response but I bet those who ignored you are sorry now. Or maybe with their attitudes they aren’t even in the blogging world anymore. So glad you “hung in there”! You are awesome!

  36. You go girl!

    P.S., Thistlewoood Farms is my absolute favorite blog.

  37. I thought you were going to say you had your flip flops on the first night (because you left them on while you were getting ready–case of nerves) so everyone saw that and was afraid to tell you!!! Silly me!!!

  38. Love the story! I’ve been there too over the years. You know what I love about you? I’m confident that you don’t do that to people…like ever. I’m confident you go out of your way to make people feel worthy. I’m confident, years later, when your blog was more successful than any of the bloggers you walked up to that night and you saw them again at another event…you made them feel worthy.

    You know why I’m confident of that? Because you’re amazing, girl. Btw, I can’t wait to meet you at Haven. I’ll be wearing sparkly flip flops too.

    Nancy

  39. Boy, did I need to read this today! Thank you.

  40. I couldn’t imagine something like that happening to YOU! I read your blog and often think that you seem to have it all together and just exhude confidence. You’re someone I would be happy to be friends with and I find out that YOU have those moments, like everyone else. Sharing this moment teaches all of us,that ultimately, we have to believe in ourselves. You didn’t let others define you, you came back and were yourself. There were lemons and you made lemon sorbet!
    I needed to see this today, thanks so much for sharing and helping. This is why I love the internet and blogs like yours…we all can learn from each other. I would have gladly have taken one of your cards and then reached for a big hug!

  41. YOU are the only YOU and You are loved!!! Always remember that everyone has an opinion and it only matters – if YOU let it!! Never allow anyone to rain on your parade; march on with your highlighted hair, red lipstick and the best pair of flip flops you can find! Thank goodness that your cheering section was on the job, cause sometimes we need that little shove to soldier on (even if it’s only with wilted Walmart business cards). YOU are the greatest storyteller of blogdom! THANK-YOU

  42. I so wish this story could have been read to me when I was young. Girl you are a very special person. Don’t ever let anyone tear you down because you rock! As your personality comes out so does your encredible talent. You go girl!

  43. You are just the most delightful writer!! You make every experience seem like something we all would want! I’m looking forward to your novels!

  44. Kari Anne, That is the worst feeling can have and when you have such a great personality as you do and all the talent you show and love for others it’s a real kick, but as usual, you came out on top and God will bless you. I talked back to a customer service man and when I got home I thought that I should apologize, so I called him and told him I wasn’t coming back. He told me that he liked me and would be hurt if I didn’t. Today we are best friends and recently he told me the good news that he is dating and life is good and he always wants to be my friend. He also keeps my car in top condition

  45. How awful to be treated like that and then what courage it must have taken to march back out there the next day and face those people again. But this is why you are so loved by so many people and have one of the best blogs on the planet — you are humble and kind and encouraging and make everyone feel as though they are the guest of honor. I am so grateful you have continued to blog, write, share and be who you were meant to be. Never change, Karianne. You’re the tops with me! 🙂

  46. Rowena Philbeck :

    Great story Kari Anne and look at you now!! Guess everyone needs to go into a situation like that being strong and not letting others get to you. That is hard to do. Confidence is great as just a pair of shoes or new purse makes you feel so much better for sure. I think everyone gets down at some point I know I do but I talk to myself to bring me back up to try and be a better person and be happy. Have a Wonderful week!! You Rock!!

  47. Thanks for sharing your story. My daughter is a full-time food blogger. She has nurtured, over the years, a wonderful set of blogger friends. And, yes, they are technically her competitors. But more than that…they all share openly with each other…things that are helpful, sources, advice, all sorts of helpful info. They have figured out they are all in this together and what makes one prosper will help the whole blogging biz. My hope and wish for you is to find this sort of nurturing and supportive group in the biz, because I know it can be really helpful. But for now…you’ve got us!

  48. This was great and thank you so much for sharing your heart… I love how you embraced the experience though and didn’t let it ruin your experience. So if you were to recommend a blog conference which would it be?

  49. I love your wisdom! I am passing it on to my granddaughters. Thank you for being the wonderful you that you are.

  50. I keep coming back to your blog because I love your attitude…
    it screams WELCOME…and i love your stories
    now that’s a blog

  51. DITTO TO ALL OF THE ABOVE COMMENTS!!! 🙂

  52. How could anyone do such a thing? To YOU??? Well…… you showed them, huh? 👏👍😆

  53. Oh my gosh, KeriAnne,
    We’ve all been there! You are so wonderful to talk about your wonderful successes AND the flip side of the coin– when things didn’t go well. My heart went out to you and to all of us who have felt that way…
    Thank you for your honesty and freshness!

  54. Goodness, we all seem to be able to connect here. You are quite the story teller/writer! Love your insights! Have you ever thought about writing a book?

  55. I’m not sure how long you have been blogging, but I think you have risen above them. Your blog is my fav and I wait impatiently for your email everyday so I can drool over your home and pictures and laugh at your stories.

    YOU GO GIRL!!! *snapping my fingers*

  56. This is a beautiful story Karianne….and so true. Whether you are a blogger or just an ordinary person in this life…there is only one you. Make the most of it! Perspective helps….a positive attitude can do wonders. But, I maintain if you feel good about yourself…if red lipstick, and blinged out sandals do it for you…then use them! Whatever it takes!! 😉

  57. Teresa Gonzales :

    Your story made the socially awkward me cringe! They were obviously the losers in this story as they did not take the time to get to know you! Major Mistake! BTW you are already famous to me!

  58. I’ve been on this earth for a long time. To this day I ask myself what makes people so judgmental. Years ago I joined a charity group and the women who were already members could not be bothered to give me the time of day. After much thought I decided these were not my kind of people and I volunteered with a different organization that accepted everyone. I was so enriched by those people. I might have been there to help but my life was made so much better by being surrounded with “open heart” people. We love you Karianne!!!!! Everyone on this blog would feel like they hit the jackpot spending five minutes with you.

  59. As always, I love your vulnerability. There have been moments when I’ve been the “in” person (and far more when I’ve been on the outside looking in!). I hope this will remind me to be aware of others who might be feeling awkward and to reach out and be welcoming. I have a feeling that being gracious comes naturally to you … I have to work at it, but it’s a skill well worth developing!

  60. You know sometimes people just want to be “Joysuckers”. They delight in sucking the JOY right out of you. I try to remember that these folks are no different than me, they put their pants on the same way, one leg at a time! Don’t let anyone suck the Joy out of your life! Life is too short for that.

  61. Wow… “Their loss” … Here’s to hoping I never ever dismiss some one like that …. Did you know… has anyone ever told you .. “You are ONE OPEN BOOK… Totally transparent…. I so love that you do not fear telling the REAL STORY!!!!! Even though we have never met in person… YOU … Karianne of Thistlewood Farms are a ROCK STAR in my book !!!!!!!!! Look out Kentucky if I ever get up that way and really do get to meet you !!!!!! 🙂

  62. KariAnne I find it astonishing that you would be treated like that at a blogging conference. Which was presumably set up to give you confidence & help new bloggers.
    So glad you saw it through & didn’t quit . Look how far you have come. You had the last laugh. Shame on them.

  63. #DONTLETANYONE#STEALYOURSPARKLE! I have a few tears in my eyes reading this story. We all can relate! The truth is… we are warriors and women with hearts and that my friend will carry you through the good, the bad, & whatever else in between. I make sure, no matter where I go, that I greet people with a kind open heart <3

  64. oh, kari anne…you made me cry! i felt so bad for you, but then i remembered, you are one of the best bloggers that i follow every day!!!!
    no need to feel bad, you are fabuloous! i love your stories, and i love your home…you have style, you have flare all your own…no one can take that from you…
    so, cheer up buttercup! we all love you…stay just the way you are….

  65. It’s so sad, really, that some adults still act like they’re checking out the newcomer to the middle school dance. Shame on them. I’m guessing your fabulous personality and skills have taken you a lot farther than many of them have gone!

  66. I never heard the flip flop story and today was exactly the best day for me to hear the story. Thank you for your inspiration and your joy. It is infectious in a wonderful way.

  67. Dear Karianne!!!
    I wish I was there!!! I’m like you, big smile and open heart!
    Thank you so much for the reminder!
    Sometimes I do feel like I’m not “as good” as others (in blogging, or decorating, etc). But you are right! That doesn’t define our worth!
    Thank you my darling!! And “here between us”: if those snobby bloggers could see you now!!! HA!

  68. Even if the others didn’t realize it, you’re magical and my favorite blogger! You cheer me up everyday!

  69. I’ll bet some of “those” unwelcoming bloggers probably fall all over themselves trying to be part of YOUR in-group now. I’m so glad that you persevered and didn’t let their unfriendly attitude discourage you. Your blog is one of the best out there!!

  70. I don’t know how long ago this was, but I’m sure their disdain has come back to their regret many times since then, and if they haven’t put two and two together, today’s post should help them remember how they behaved. Believe me, what goes around comes around and I do believe in karma in this lifetime! You are a wonderful wonder! Keep your head, but keep it up!

  71. Your blog is not just another pretty picture- another fancy DIY- you put your vulnerable self out there and tell your story with style and I LOVE you for that! Thank you for inspiring me everyday!

  72. I just love you and your blog! And I hate it when people treat others the way those nasty ladies treated you!

  73. I remember when you posted about going to attend that conference. And I remember cheering for you in the comments, telling you that you would SHINE. But what you don’t know is for the first two years of Haven, I bought tickets to go, but ended up selling my “sold out” tickets because I never started the blog I was supposed to start! Reading this post just made me so sad thinking that if I had started my blog, we could have been shining and laughing together because I am very much like you! I wear lipstick and dangly earrings and you have to see the rhinestone flip flops I just bought! Fancy!
    And thank you. I do remember how much you appreciated my comment about how you would light up the room at that conference. Not to mention, you ended up being a speaker on a later date that was standing room only!
    Appreciate your honesty so much.

  74. I love your blog and have been following for several years. This is my first comment. You rock. You just so rock. Thank you for your joy, creativity and authenticity. BTW…I always read every word.

  75. I adore you and your wisdom!

  76. You gave them a chance they did not deserve!! We all love you! norma

  77. I admire you in so many ways. Thank you for sharing –

  78. Beverly Smetko :

    I guess there are cliques everywhere..even at the bloggers conference. You made the best of an unexpected situation, and I bet you enjoyed the conference more than any groupie who stuck with their shadows. When you are on the speakers podium at a bloggers conference, I hope you tell this story. You are AWESOME, and my daily dose of delight! You are living the dream, GF, and keep on rocking and inspiring all of us!! J..a..thought..you can MFG the blinged out flip flops and will probably sell out at the next, and I hope there is, conference, plus online.

  79. From me to you…enjoyed it yesterday…enjoyed it today. Thank you! While I wasn’t wearing sparkly flip flops, my fuzzy slippers did not touch the ground for the rest of the day.

  80. I’m so sorry that was your first blogger conference experience. Obviously, it didn’t hold you back! I’m so happy that my first blogger conference at Haven 2015 was awesome. I was totally alone and I didn’t have on red lipstick, but by the end of the first night I made friends with bloggers who became my tribe and friends and support. I was overwhelmed at all the info about things that went by letters (SEO, DSLR) and words I had never heard of (affiliate marketing, branding, Instagram). But I can honestly and, thankfully, say that the best part was the sharing and generosity and friendliness of everyone I met. And a year and a half later, that is still true ~ including you, sweet Karianne.

  81. Yeah for you!! As a young minister’s wife, moons ago, I felt the same way….lost in a sea of talent and experience. Every wife asked, upon introduction, what I did-meaning did I sing or play an instrument?
    Frustrated , I finally said “I just try not to hurt my husband’s ministry”-and promptly went home andtaught a bang up lesson to my Sunday class on self worth!! 😆

  82. Excellent advice! You have such a fabulous attitude toward life.

  83. God made you to be yourself! You are a delight to read and I love your pics. You are also my favorite blog to read!

  84. Love the message here! Yes, girlfriend, you are in the house, and always will be!

  85. I absoutely LOVE taking risks and putting myself out there, all by my little lonesome. That’s how we put our Big Girl Panties On (or flip flops) & grow into a true Woman and Professional. See how far you’ve come!

  86. YOU are a delight KariAnn … will you be my friend and I shall be yours … and there you go, done … thank you !

  87. Shirley Hetherington :

    Great story about confidence, determination and self acceptance…..no egg in YOUR face in the end❣❣👏👏

  88. Loved this story! I so want to go to blog conference with you! We would both be in the building! The big wig now and the Lucy when it comes to DIY and dabbles w words. So proud of you and for you! My mom always said: Stephanie Elaine never forget you are not any better than anyone else but always just as good! I also love it when people say you grew up on the wrong side of the tracks. I said who told you which side was right… And which was wrong? Unless it was God himself I don’t believe you. Yep was at the ripe old age of 8. Thank goodness for the ability you had to dig down deep and remember just how special you are sweet lady.😉

  89. Don’t let anyone make you feel you are less than them. You have a wonderful blog, one I am excited to open each time I see it in my inbox.. They are just jealous they do not have such an awesome blog. Sparkle on, KariAnne, Sparkle on!

  90. There is so much rudeness and attitude in the world today. I am really glad you didnt give up blogging. I cant count the number of times you have put a smile on my face, and in my heart, and reminded me its ok to be the best me I can be!. Thank you for believing in us, your readers, and welcoming us all, flipflops or not!

  91. Hugs to you , my friend. Quoting one of my favorite authors, Richard Rohr, “If we cannot trust that we have an eternal identity in God, then we are burdened with creating our own personal importance day after day.” In your story today, when you were lying on your bed in tears, you suddenly remembered who gave you worth and that and a pair of flip flops will get you through anything!!. Huge smiles from all of us!!

  92. Sad day for THEM.
    Your my favorite blog and one of the best story tellers I know.
    You are make us all feel normal… and your joy is unspeakable.
    So, all of that to say, you are valuable and loved by many.
    Go sparkle girl ! Thank you for sharing something we can
    ALL relate to.

  93. Gosh, I just had terrible middle school flashbacks! It’s such an awful feeling to be judged, especially by peers…who should know so much better. Adults!

    It’s an age old lesson that bears constant repeat, which most of us learned in kindergarten. If the inflated ego could somehow become humility instead.

    Keep dancing KariAnne, always dance <3

  94. Gosh I just love you!

  95. Yes, we all have worth and we should treat others like we would want to be treated! It’s hard to believe that grownups would act that way. Sounds like they were snobs to me. Stay away from people like that.

  96. Your story brought tears to my eyes. I hate it that you experienced that. I know that I can relate in some ways. I’m so very, very glad that you realized that you are special just exactly the way that God created you to be and that you had family members who loved you and who you knew were pulling for you. How very sad if you had given up because all of us readers would certainly have missed your great style. You are truly an original!!

  97. Beautiful story, KariAnne! The best part? After an uncomfortable day, you picked yourself and went back to the conference! You didn’t give up or let them get you down. You are always an inspiration, sweet friend!

  98. I just knew you were going to say you went into the wrong conference room. …like the fertilizer commission convention. 🙂

    I guarantee those eighth-grade-hussy-ish bloggers are eating their hearts out today!! Glad you didn’t give up!

  99. I am glad that there is only ONE YOU. Because YOU make me smile. And whenever I wear my red lipstick, I think of YOU and smile again.

  100. I have felt this way so many times. Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for reminding us of our worth.

  101. Oh, my gosh! How rude of them. I’m so sorry. I wish I’d been there. We would have had our own party. You would talk; I would listen. You would tell a story; I would laugh. Those poor souls had no idea what they were missing. You are my most favorite-ist of all! 😀

  102. And your blog followers would not want you any other way than just “you.” So happy you did not let the first day of the conference change you.

  103. My Sweet Friend,
    Wow! How amazing to read THIS post today!!!
    I woke up at 3:30 this morning with VERY similar intimidating, dream fizzling thoughts swirling around in my head.
    It was like someone said to me… “Girl, who do you think you are? You have some crazy big plans and dreams and they are RIDICULOUS. There is NO way you will EVER accomplish anything remotely close. You can’t because YOU are a failure. A joke if the truth be told! You constantly make mistakes in business. You have no idea what you are doing. Nobody really likes you or thinks you have anything to offer anyway!!”
    Seriously Karianne….THAT is what I woke up to at 3:30 am. A huge punch to the gut and tears streaming down my face. This very morning!!!!
    As I sat there in the darkness waking up, I became increasingly aware it was all “just a bad dream” however there was definite TRUTH to some of it. My heart began to sink and I wanted to hide under my covers. I HAVE failed many times. I DON’T completely know what I am doing. I DO have big dreams/plans and feel like I AM a joke most days.
    For like 20-30 seconds I began to sink in a tidepool of embarrassment and shame
    BUT THEN…
    A still small voice said “Brandy I KNOW who you are… and you are not a failure. You do make some mistakes and aren’t always sure of what to do next or the path to take but I am here to help you, teach you, and lead you! You are NOT who you used to be! I know because I have changed your heart. And those BIG plans and dreams ….girl those are MINE …straight from My heart… the very reason you were born and I don’t want you to underestimate or doubt them for one minute. You ARE who I made you to be and I couldn’t be more proud of what I see and know about you. That’s ALL you need to know!
    Well needless to say….my heart was completely changed this morning after hearing God’s perspective of things and I waltzed through my day holding my head up high….like I was ME!
    😘

  104. thank you….. simply, thank you.

  105. Karianne I love your Blog do Not change a thing! Their loss we love you!

  106. how very sad. they missed out on making friends with a real woman. A woman that has ups and downs and in-betweens just like the rest of us real people.
    So glad you didn’t let ’em see you sweat.
    We (your followers) love you just the way you are.
    I will pray for all those that were in attendance and missed out on being your friend.

  107. Marilyn Craighead :

    I love and appreciate your blog. You are the surprise in my cracker jack…. Your blog is fresh, fun, giggly, serious, happy, sad………. IT’S REAL! Keep on being YOU!

  108. Rebecca Turner :

    Mean girls grow up. But women don’t have a monopoly on feeling superior or being determined to rub it in your face. I can think of several times when I’ve experienced the same dismissive attitude, from both sexes. It happened to me at an antique store and also at a fine furniture store…as if I didn’t have any business being there, because I didn’t belong. I’ve learned to dress the part. (No jeans or yoga pants, lol!) I should have taken my checkbook and gone home. Instead I made a large purchase. That probably doesn’t qualify as persevering, but I’m glad that YOU did! Your blog brings me (and a lot of other people) joy and laughter.

  109. I’m sitting at home feeling very, very low about so many things in this valley of life I am currently in. The lump in my throat is getting bigger with each chime of my dear late mama’s clock. And then… then I read ” there is only one you. And that you is amazing!” And I say “Thank you, Lord, for that message!” And He says, “No, amazing one… Thank your friend KariAnne!”
    Thank you, KariAnne, for your blog, your wonderful stories from your dear sweet heart, and for always, always making me smile!

  110. We’ve all been there! But, I wasn’t prepared to weep with you all over again…I have heard this story and cried and ached with you before. Right? But no. Once again, my heart hurt right along with you and celebrated with you as you overcame that night. That’s what you do, friend. And my most embarrassing moment? Your birthday mishap! Oh, my!! Thanks for reminding me why we are friends. And that flip flops always make life better.

  111. MARY-ANN (FROM CANADA!) :

    KariAnne, you are such a wonderful person! So glad that you left that experience behind you and picked yourself up and carried on!

    You are such a blessing to all of us! My dear Dad always used to say that “you have to pick yourself up one more time than you fall down”. I will never forget to do this!

    Bless you, dear friend!

  112. KariAnne~YOU are amazing! Thank you for sharing your life with us.

  113. Oh, my … so many of us know those feelings!
    I would venture to say, however, that some or all of those ladies have since come to you to join them in a group project, or a bloggers’ tour, or some other event. And knowing you, you did not bring up this old hurt, but accepted THEM! And you JOYfully joined in, making any group effort much more successful by your mere presence!
    I know you would be only kind and accepting … our awesome *girlfriend* KariAnne! Like others, I’ve experienced rejection before, and though I haven’t always been able to “make lemonade from lemons,” your story ~ with its happy ending ~ tells me that I can have more faith in ME if it happens again! What an inspiration you are, lady! Hugs, kj

  114. See you in Overbrook, KS on Saturday. I am excited to meet you.

  115. Teresa aldrete :

    I truly loved this post. And you and your blog! I have never left a comment on a blog before and I felt so compelled to tell you that you are charming, dear, funny and I ALWAYS stop to read what you write. We can all relate to what you went through and so awesome to hear how you overcame that challenge.
    Go get ’em!

  116. Melanie in Alabama :

    I am not a blogger just a groupie, and I met you a few years ago at The Chapel Market. While everyone was waiting in line, you were singing and dancing. Although there were other bloggers in attendance, only you had a truly magnetic personality. I was so nervous to even talk to you, but you chatted away as if we knew each other. Obviously you know how it feels to be nervous about approaching someone and then feeling rejected. Thank you for persevering with your blog and continuing to attend conferences. You are an inspiration. I would go with you as one of your peeps anytime!

  117. You go girl!! 😊😊😊😊

  118. Thank you, Karianne, for so many wonderful reminders in your message today…it’s so easy to let others dictate our destinies, which is why we have to remember just who God created us to be! God Bless You!

  119. I LOVE this story!!!
    I lived the first 1/2 of my life just like the first 1/2 of your story… I tried to do new things, get involved in things I loved and put myself “out there” so that I could meet people who did things I loved. But I was constantly being snubbed, made to feel not good enough.

    Then I had to take care of my parents! I had 2 small children and a hubby (and 2 cats and a dog) and a part time job and my mom had cancer and my dad was disabled ….
    I had a big load to carry.
    Well, I found my voice! I had to speak up for myself and my family and I surprised myself! It was then that I realized that I was valuable, and if I was to carry on (and stay sane) I needed to do it being me!
    Now I dress the way I love to…eat more than I should, laugh my goofy laugh and have so much more fun!
    Glad you are you, I love your blog and you are so charming!

  120. This has happened to most of us, I’m sure. But when it happens to someone with a tender heart, someone like you who is kind and warm and funny, and so REAL, well, it just hurts a little more. Proud of you getting back up standing tall! 😘

  121. Ginger Thompson :

    KariAnne, I stumbled across your blog a few years ago. You always bring a smile to my face. I enjoy reading your stories, your one-liners, your positive perspective, your inspiring words. I can’t wait to read your book!! You soon became my favorite blogger … especially after I met you in person. And, guess what? I didn’t even notice your shoes! How could anyone look past your smile 🙂 Your smile and energy captivatingly draw others to you! Does it really matter that Wal-Mart printed your business cards? No! You are so thoughtful about so many things. How can one top sugar cookies to match your fabric line? I hope you don’t let other bloggers get you down ever again … and mostly, don’t change to be like them! Stay genuine. You’re simply the best!
    ~Hugs from Texas

  122. So glad you is you, and that you got up, put on those flip flops and preserved!

  123. Friend, you have more strength than most can dream of. It’s those moments that not only help shape your career, but define you. New experiences, surroundings and especially women can be intimidating, but I’m so proud of you for not allowing them conquer you, but giving you the courage to conquer your fears.

  124. Way to go girl! Proud of you! Great roll model for those beautiful girls!!😘

  125. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story. I’m glad you persevered, you have a beautiful blog and your own unique story to tell, and you tell it so well.

  126. Thank you for that honesty! If I ever attend a blog meeting or conference, I’ll remember this post!

  127. I hadn’t thought of attending a blogging conference but I will now. And I’ll get a pair of sparkly flip flops to wear to it. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  128. Very interesting post. We all try to be witty and self-assured in the blog world. Of course everyone will lovely me…lol. I think you are right—just be yourself—and your dreams will be contagious.
    Grins, Sandi

  129. Wow…so many peeps have commented here….
    don’t know if you’ll get a chance to read mine….
    but I must convey to you….
    I’ve thought about the story you shared in
    this post….most every week since I first read of
    it what you first shared it.
    Seems it’s exactly the story of my life in a lot of
    circumstances….only you darned the hero cape
    and flew through the ordeal and came out a
    shining super star!
    You’re my hero KariAnne!

  130. I am so sorry that happened to you! I am a true believer you treat others like you want to be treated! I love your blog and so many others, hopefully I am not viewing any that treated you in that manner.

  131. I love this story! I guess I better get some blingy flip flops if I’m going to Haven!

  132. Barbara Whitaker :

    Loved the story and hoped you finally separated your feelings from the bad experience. Its like when I’ve been to NYC and they find out (by looking or hearing) you are from KY. I held my head up high because we (you and me) are just as important as NYC or Hollywood etc.

    We need to stop worshiping the others…and begin to like ourselves. (Just as you would tell your sweet girls…and I told mine who are now 36 and 31). LOVE YOUR BLOG…don’t stop being you.

  133. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I am bookmarking this, to look back on a read over every time I get those pre-event impostor syndrome jitters.

  134. I love this post. And I love you, KariAnne. I love that you are so joyful and know who you are. I love the stories you tell and the positive attitude you exude with each and every share you make. I’m still waiting for others to recognize my worth after blogging for too many years to remember, but I know I have great worth and that maybe I’m like an artist that will be finally recognized long after my life on this earth has gone, and that’s okay, because I’m happy with me. Hugs!!
    P.S.
    I will definitely remember the flip-flops! 😉

  135. The blogging world can be so clicky. I’m glad your first experience at a blog conference didn’t stop you from marching on. Just look at you now!

  136. Just about everyone has been on the receiving end of this type of ego-flattening behaviour. Your post has reminded me to be receptive and accepting of others. Sometimes we forget what it is like to be the new person in the room, not knowing anyone else. I am so glad you were able to overcome what could have been a very bad experience. Thank you for sharing your story.

  137. KariAnne,
    I have a dream. A dream of a conference where everyone feels welcome, a dream of a conference where everyone knows at least two people before even attending by participating in secret sisters, a dream of a conference where everyone smiles, laughs, wears sparkly flip-flops, and connects with her inner creativity.

    ROCK STARS always wear bling… Bring on the flip-flops for the swag bag!

    Judith

  138. Women can be so mean and hateful sometimes. I pray that all women would always stop and think how they would want to be treated! C’mon ladies let’s love everybody! As Plato said, “Be kind for everyone is fighting their own battle.”

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